Start With You, Self-Care First
As a relationship therapist, I cannot overemphasize the importance of self care.
There is this popular misconception that taking time for yourself is selfish — but this is completely false. Self care not only helps you restore yourself, but it replenishes your energy so that you can continue to give to those around you.
Including your partner.
When you feel restored and at peace, you’re able to bring the best of yourself to your relationship, and the same is true for your partner.
That’s why it is so important to not only make time for self care, but also facilitate the same for your partner. When you’re both feeling replenished and filled up, your relationship will only benefit!
But how can you fit it into your schedule?
Before becoming a parent, self care was likely woven into your life in many small ways — as life gets more complicated, we need to be more purposeful in planning and engaging in it.
But with so many things already in your calendar, how can you possibly fit more?
It can be tempting to give up before you begin, if you consider self care to be made up of things like a spa day or a drive to the country — things that would be hard to fit into most people’s schedules.
But you can engage in self care in under 10 minutes.
The two main things to keep in mind: ‘easy’ and ‘possible’.
I’d love to help you get started!
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
How to fit self care into even the busiest of schedules in just five minutes at a time
A quiz to find out what effective self care might look like for you
How to work with your partner to ensure that you’re both happy and replenished
“Self care is a practice.. you’re creating new synapses in your brain. You’re creating new neural pathways to say ‘Yeah, there are many things to do and it is important for me to intentionally restore first.’”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:55 What does self care actually mean?
02:18 Scheduling self care
04:06 Self care v. selfishness
05:01 Self care as the foundation of your relationship
07:56 Avoiding resentment
11:24 Speak up about what you need
12:41 3 self care questions
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