4 Ways To Be Proactive As A Couple
How do you prevent small issues from becoming embedded in the fabric of your relationship?
As a couples therapist, people often come to see me when they are in what I call the ‘breakdown lane’. They’re dealing with something that they can no longer ignore, whether it’s a sudden crisis or a wound that has been festering for years.
It’s unfortunately common for parents to put their relationship on the backburner and settle for their relationship as-is for now. They tell themselves that they’ll deal with the issues later, when the kids are toilet-trained, when they’re in primary school, or whichever milestone comes next.
In this way, issues become the new normal — and grow more challenging to change.
Rather than wait until issues become unbearable, I teach my clients how to be proactive in maintaining their relationship health.
Putting in small amounts of time and effort along the way can help you avoid winding up in the breakdown lane.
After all, many of us are proactive in other areas of our health. We try to eat healthy, we try to exercise, we try to get enough sleep. Why not take that same approach to your relationship health?
If you work out regularly, you notice your body getting stronger. This is the same thing — your relationship gets stronger when you work on it consistently.
You can get started right now!
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
Why so many couples put off dealing with their issues until they’re too big to ignore
4 ways to be proactive about relationship health as a couple
How to create and maintain consistent, quality couple time
“The small things that you do now are going to have such a huge impact on how connected you are as a couple.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:32 Getting out of the breakdown lane
01:52 Be proactive
02:37 Start with you
03:26 Ask for what you need
03:43 Stay curious
04:44 Quality time should be consistent
05:35 Scheduling examples
07:04 Work your relationship muscle
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