Listening Tips
“When you are listening to your partner, I want to encourage you to listen in a way that helps you to really understand them, as opposed to getting ready to reply.”
— Allison Villa
Are you a good listener?
Listening effectively is about more than just quietly letting someone else speak.
It’s about consciously hearing what they have to say, instead of just waiting for your turn to reply.
It’s both an art and a vital tool for strengthening your relationship.
When it comes to communicating effectively, expressing and listening are equally important. You need to be able to help another person understand your perspective AND be able to take in and understand theirs as well. This is the full communication loop.
It won’t work with only one half of that equation!
Last week’s episode was all about learning how to express your thoughts and emotions effectively.
This week, we’re going to focus on how to listen so that your partner will WANT to talk more and feel comfortable sharing their feelings with you.
Let me be honest: this will take some effort, but the benefit to your relationship will be incredible!
In this episode, I share my three favourite listening tips — they’re small and simple, but they have tremendous impact!
Listen to the episode to discover:
How to show your partner through your body language that you’re engaged and listening to what they have to say
The incredible power of learning to push through your defensive reactions and just stay present in the moment
The #1 response to give every single time your partner shares their feelings with you — and amazing thing that it conveys to them
“We see each other every day, but it’s often in passing and not in an intentional way.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:30 The two sides of communication
01:13 Listen to hear, not to reply
02:41 Body language
04:14 No interruptions
05:14 The magic paraphrase
07:19 Sit with their discomfort
08:57 Recap
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